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We crushed it! January 2026 – $489k

As I type this up I’m enjoying the tail end of a trip to West Palm Beach and Fort Lauderdale. The weather has been impeccable, warmth that I wouldn’t expect to see at the tail end of December. Yesterday hit a high of 82. People were jugging up and down the streets and boardwalk like we were in the thick of summer.

December was a good month for me financially. Hit my max 2025 contribution for the Roth IRA and 401K. Ended the month still able to have a $0 balance on my credit cards. The trip I’m currently on we did on a budget through discounts, credits. Food and some other things went on the credit card but it was only a few hundred split across the two of us.

Two of the paychecks this month didn’t have my 401k contributions taken out at all so that gave me a lot more disposable income.

I just started reading a book called Zero World Problems: New Standards of Living For the Post-Materialistic economy by Aaron Clarey who also wrote the book Black Man’s Guide Out of Poverty. For context I read that book in March 2017 when my net worth was closer to *$25k*. A lot of the material in the first section I was already familiar with but it is nice to revisit some of the core principals that will help me navigate my 40s/50s and beyond. Keeping up with the Joneses really does not make us happy.

So what happened in December 2025:
1. I got a car repair close to $260 including an oil change and replacing old hydroscopic brake fluid with new fluid to improve longevity of the entire system. A little more money than I wanted to spend honestly. I can always do oil changes at the Honda dealership for $59.95 after a coupon. I think I paid closer to $100 for that and that was after a coupon. Not sure about the brakes. Sometimes you just want to get in and out though, in this case I worked while they wrenched on the car.

2. I finally beat Baldur’s Gate 3 – This came I bought about a year ago and it wasn’t super expensive. Got over 480 hours out of it which is a bit embarassing to admit. I promptly deleted the game from my SSD likely to never touch it again.

3. Got these Thai needles in bulk. My bf’s first reaction was to send it back but hey if we have 6 months worth of noodles in the cabinet that saves both time and money as long as we use them. Plus I’d argue they’re a touch more healthy than the kind you buy from the restaurant covered in sauces and oils.
4. Unsuccessfully tried to assemble a wooden cabinet for the office that had super cheap pressed wood and disintegrated on me.

5. Bought these supermarket flowers that I just love. They made it about a week and half before tossing them but it adds a nice pop of color to the space.

6. Christmas / Holiday festivities – Wicked For Good didn’t disappoint though I made the mistake of seeing it while sleep deprived in a dark movie theater.

7. West Palm Beach / Fort Lauderdale trip – Took so many pictures. I’ll post a few of them here. Lots of fun new memories and a well needed break from Dallas.

In my last post I set a net worth estimate for the end of 2025 at $480k
8. My mortgage is now paid up until March 1, 2026 (2 payments of about ~$2900 Jan and February) so it looks like my cash balance has come down a lot. I noticed these prepayments aren’t reflected on my oustanding balance yet. I like having a little buffer. Starting next month I’m going to start with the triple principal payments (2 more than normal month) scenario I mentioned in my last post.

People often overerestimate what they can accomplish in a year and underestimate what they can in a decade. Since last month my net worth is up about $5,500 and in the last year I’m up $104k or +27%. A decade ago I was in the negative $14k net worth range. Past me never would’ve thought my numbers would go up by $500k. I hope the new year brings you good health, financial abundance, and happiness. I’m going into 2026 ready to rock and roll.

12/30/2512/1/2025Difference% Change12/27/24YoY Diff% Change
401K$402,229$397,992$4,2371.1%$315,581$ 86,64827.5%
Roth IRA$57,765$56,073$1,6923.0%$51,574$ 6,19112.0%
Brokerage Accts$3,423$3,074$34911.3%$1,644$ 1,779108.2%
Cash$12,592$15,621-$3,029-19.4%$11,896$ 6965.8%
HSA$6,343$5,869$4748.1%$3,559$ 2,78478.2%
Total$482,352$478,629$3,7230.8%$ 384,254$ 98,09825.5%
Credit Cards$0$0$0#DIV/0!0$ –#DIV/0!
Auto Loan$0$0$0#DIV/0!0$ –#DIV/0!
Subtotal$482,352$478,629$3,7230.8%$ 384,254$ 98,09825.5%
Mortgage$338,951$339,258-$307-0.1%
Zillow Estimate$345,200$343,700$1,5000.4%
Equity Estimate$6,249$4,442$1,80740.7%
Net Total$488,601$483,070$5,5301.1%

Is this blog boring and repetitive? Maybe but slow and steady wins the race. 😀

New Homeowner – Sept 2025 – $446k

Today is September 4, 2025.  Writing these blog posts a little bit different these days as a homeowner as opposed to renter.  I successfully closed on my new home in early August 2025.  3 bedroom, 2 bathroom built in the 1970s. Close enough to Dallas to get there if / when I went to but far enough where the neighborhood is relatively quiet. My realtor who is a friend was super patient with me which I really appreciated along the journey. I didn’t feel pressured at all and a few of the properties I knew were a hard no right off the bat.

Nearly a month into the process I’m very happy with my decision and considering I just turned the ripe young age of 42 in August, I don’t think renting especially in that old apartment in that neighborhood fit my aspirations. Shortly after I moved out a woman was held at knifepoint at another complex down the block causing 12 police cruisers to show up. My immediate neighbor also wasn’t renewing her lease so that makes 2 of us. There were signs as soon as you turn down saying to lock up and basically be aware of theft. Started to feel like a third world country to be honest. Cars lined up and down the street, people repairing cars on the street, people speeding up and down the road blasting loud music.

With the purchase of a home comes along unexpected expenses and my situation is no different. Sharing a few pictures of my August experiences. I really did a lot in a month. Today I finished mowing the lawn for the third time I think? It grows super quickly in the back.

DFW Skyline
Margaret McDermott Bridge
Replaced the wiper blades and cabin filter as part of a quick weekend project
  1. Proper maintenance of the exterior is of the utmost importance, so I needed to buy a lawnmower.Along with the lawnmower purchase were a weedwhacker and a leaf blower. The estimated cost for all these items was about $566.
  2. Altogether the moving company cost roughly $890 including the tip if I recall correctly. They did a really good job getting all of my items packed onto the truck and delivering them without any noticeable damage.
  3. I went through a bit of an ordeal trying to figure out how to properly connect the power cable from my electric dryer into the home.I thought I was doing something wrong but it turned out that the previous owner hired a contractor who installed a stove outlet instead of a proper 4 prong dryer outlet. We went back-and-forth for several days about them fixing it prior to my closing date. The work was never done which resulted in me making an emergency phone call to a local electrician who fortunately was able to arrive within an hour and finished up right when the movers were coming with all my stuff. The final cost of that was $265.
  4. The home that I purchased had prior foundation work done earlier in the year. With that my online research found that it is highly recommended to transfer the foundation warranty from the previous owner to the current owner within 30 to 60 days. I jokingly say that was the most expensive piece of paper with a certificate on it that I’ve paid aside from my college degrees. $150, but I think it’s worth it for additional piece of mine and if god forbid I ever have to make a claim on the warranty.
  5. Home essentials are  also something that is important as far as making the space “livable”, That includes bedding, new towels, a step ladder, includes a 6 foot ladder to allow me to get to the roof. Also 2 $80/each custom made cellular window shades, lamp from Ikea. Estimated cost altogether I’d say is $650.
  6. Furniture – Think I covered this last month but it was around $1100-1200. includes furniture for the living room area as well as a bookshelf, and a reading chair.
  7. As far as an additional expense in terms of time involved/labor and less so the money aspect. I climbed up the ladder to remove a ton of debris from the gutters since I noticed when there was heavy rainfall, the water was literally just rolling off of the edge of the gutters my fear, if not quickly addressed, that would create water damage to something I wasn’t trying to deal with as a brand new homeowner.
  8. During the middle of all of this, my semi estranged grandfather, passed away at the age of 89. I really struggled with this emotionally as I’ve not seen him in person over the last 16 years the most we’ve spoken to was approximately one hour in total, he also has not contributed to my life at all as an adult nor have I asked him to if I didn’t want to go to the service they had it would’ve been a 9 hour drive or alternatively a $700 round-trip flight. At the time no one was very communicative about whether there was even going to be a service or would it just be a viewing and that’s it. With all that said I did not go to my own grandfather’s funeral. I explained the situation to my mother, and she seemed OK with it. It was not made in haste since I just bought a house and haven’t even made the first payment having an additional expense of that scale for someone who barely made an effort… just wasn’t something that resonated in my soul. I also have never spoken to his wife or met her in person.
  9. Temperatures in August are some of the hottest of the entire year in 2025 is no exception. Given that the square footage of this property is more than double what my apartment was so two are the projected electricity cost. That means for approximately three weeks of living here. We’re looking at an electricity bill of over $220 projected. Only recently have I taken additional measures that could help minimize that this includes some blinds that are blocking some of the light in the front two windows and using a dehumidifier, which should allow the AC to not work as hard to get the interior at the desired temperature.
  10. Home security is another expense associated with homeownership. As a gay man living in a red state, and a minority on top of that, and not knowing any of my neighbors on top of that, I thought it would be best for me to get a home security set up with that. I did have to finance the equipment since I wasn’t buying it outright the cost of that including the labor, the equipment and taxes was approximately $2,900 (a big part of the CC balance)granted that is at a 0% interest rate. It still is considered an active/open credit line on my credit report. My goal is to pay extra as I go, but the financially smart thing to do would be to milk it as much as I can. There’s also a recurring cost for the service of the alarm of roughly $50 per month and I think it was also close to $60 per year to register with the city since that is a requirement since apparently there are a lot of false alarms.
  11. Pest control was another item that I needed to take care of, this house is built in the 1970s and we’re in Texas. I’ve had experiences with carpenter ants and other ants infestations, at this house. There were some mosquitoes in the yard that we were trying to take care of, along with some ants near the window that kept coming inside. I do think one of the sprays I can smell inside when the fan is on. It was particularly strong at first though it is gradually starting to dissipate. I see dead ants on the floor, which is OK though there were quite a lot overtime I do think the previous owner did some type of pest control treatment prior to leaving. Roughly $65/mo
  12. An upcoming expense that I may have is regarding exterior plants for the property. Haven’t decided exactly on what plants. I’m going to purchase but want something nice that hopefully isn’t going to die within the next month as the seasons change I’m not entirely how much that will cost, but we’ll see…
  13. The water and sewage bill should come in the mail soon, I’m expecting that to be $70 dollars.
  14. There are some additional expenses associated with throwing a housewarming party, but those are relatively minor. Let’s say $100.
  15. Refrigerator – I bought a more affordable one from Best Buy but it was the wrong size so it had to get shipped back. The one I was able to get in a timely manner came from Home Depot to the tune of $1,358.52 including tax. That was under a special buy with $801 off.
  16. Truck Rental – Rented a truck from U-Haul for a grill my friends gave me that doesn’t work. Cost was about $110 including gas.
  17. Handle – One of the handles in the kitchen was missing on a cabinet, prompting me to find a replacement. I went to Lowes, I want to Home Depot. They almost matched but I ended up ordering line for a near perfect fit.
  18. Saw these cute little goats out in Terrell, TX. I didn’t pet them but they were super adorable to look at and see especially the children’s faces light up.
  19. Went to a potluck / pool party with friends early this week and really enjoyed myself. It’s fun to continue putting myself out there and experiencing new things.

It does feel like I have gone through a decent amount of money with all of the initial move-in expenses, but many of these are one time costs. Or items that will benefit me for several years minimum. I’ve been trying to cash flow things as much as possible. Fortunately, my first mortgage payment is due the start of October so that does give me a little bit of a buffer. The mortgage lender is going to be selling it to a different company to service, fingers crossed nothing gets mixed up along the way.

My net worth is down about $5k for the month which isn’t bad considering I bought a whole house. Still up about $106k for the year. In September 2020 my total net worth was only $96k, a *lot* can happen in 5 years.

9/1/20257/30/2025Difference% Change8/31/2024YoY Diff% Change
401K$366,372$360,084$6,2881.7%$ 289,322$ 77,05026.6%
Roth IRA$50,470$49,304$1,1662.4%$ 45,392$ 5,07811.2%
Brokerage Accts$1,636$1,805-$169-9.4%$ 22$ 1,6147336.5%
Cash$15,420$35,018-$19,598-56.0%$ 2,032$ 13,388658.9%
HSA*$5,220$4,901$3196.5%$ 3,574$ 1,64646.1%
Total$439,118$451,112-$11,994-2.7%$ 340,342$ 98,77629.0%
Credit Cards$3,245$0$3,245#DIV/0!$ 349$ 2,896829.8%
Auto Loan$0$0$0#DIV/0!$ –$ –#DIV/0!
Subtotal$435,873$451,112-$15,239-3.4%$ 339,993$ 95,88028.2%
Mortgage$341,000$0
Zillow Estimate$351,000$0
Equity Estimate$10,000$0
Net Total$445,873$451,112
Mid bike session was proud of myself that day 10 mile ride

While I hate the idea of carrying extra, the alarm is at 0% so mathematically it makes no sense to pay it off early. Any money I add to principal on the mortgage will get me closer to eliminating PMI and lower my overall interest payments. And lessen the amount of time on the loan. However with the roughly $22k of interest for 2026, plus property $4k taxes, and $1200 of PMI of I would benefit from filing taxes under the itemized deduction.

Here’s a snapshot of my amortization schedule.

I asked Gemini how much extra I’d need to pay to have the mortgage gone by my target retirement age. This is what it generated:
To pay off your $340,000 mortgage by October 2043, you would need to pay an additional $514.09 per month towards the principal.

This calculation is based on the provided amortization schedule and the goal of paying off the loan in 18 years (from October 2025 to October 2043), rather than the original longer term, which appears to be a 30-year mortgage.

Breakdown of the Calculation

Here’s how we arrived at that number:

  • Original Loan Details: Based on the amortization schedule, your original monthly payment for principal and interest is approximately $2,180.07. The annual interest rate is approximately 6.625%.
  • New Payoff Goal: To pay off the mortgage by 2043, the loan term is shortened to 18 years (216 months).
  • New Monthly Payment: To meet this new goal, a new monthly principal and interest payment of approximately $2,694.16 is required.
  • Extra Principal Payment: The difference between the new and original payment is the extra amount that needs to be paid each month:$2,694.16 (New Payment) – $2,180.07 (Original Payment) = $514.09 (Extra Monthly Payment)

By adding this extra amount to your monthly payment and ensuring it is applied directly to the principal, you can significantly shorten the life of your loan and save a substantial amount in interest over time. It is always a good practice to communicate with your lender to ensure any extra payments are correctly applied to the principal balance.

I also need to think about ways to boost my income. Even an extra $500 could go a long way consistently. Maybe a raise will be in my future? 😂

2024 Debt Free Alpha – End of Year Post – $250k -> $384k

12/27/2412/1/24Difference% Change12/21/23YoY Change% Change
401K$ 315,581$ 319,005$ (3,424)-1.1%$227,680$ 87,90138.61%
Roth IRA$ 51,574$ 51,308$ 2650.5%$33,551$ 18,02353.72%
Brokerage Accts$ 1,644$ 1,346$ 29722.1%$1,863$ (219)-11.77%
Cash$ 11,896$ 7,603$ 4,29356.5%$2,739$ 9,157334.33%
HSA$ 3,559$ 3,561$ (2)-0.1%$2,637$ 92234.98%
Total$ 384,254$ 382,824$ 1,4300.4%$268,470$ 115,78443.13%
Credit Cards$ –$ 166$ (166)-100.0%$336$ (336)-100.00%
Auto Loan$ –$ –$ –#DIV/0!$17,746$ (17,746)-100.00%
Net Total$ 384,254$ 382,658$ 1,5960.4%$250,389$ 133,86553.46%

2024 Progress

Typing this one up a few early as I will be driving home from San Antonio New Years Eve. It has been quite a year, one which for me will go in the history books as my best year ever. Never before in my life has my net worth been this high before. To cross the $300k threshold and be a stone’s throw away from $400k. I am up $134k from the start of the year and mostly flat to where I started off December due to fluctuations in the market. When I started this blog I was negative $47k in debt, I saw the Sallie Mae / Navient loans show up on my credit report history. Those were some really dark days and I’m glad I drove myself to write about my struggles with that experience. No one cares about my finances as much as I do and that continues to be the case.

  1. One of my bonuses came through last week and it all went right into my Wealthfront account. I moved money over from the Apple Savings account that paid a lower interest rate. With the sign up incentive I’m getting a sweet 4.5% APY until March then back to 4%. My primary financial institution money market pays only .2% and the checking is 0%. Would be .4% if I did a certain amount of debit transactions monthly but even on $2k that’s $80 for the year and risky if I run into any issues with fraud or need other protections. High yield is where it’s at. Here’s the link to Wealthfront if you want to sign-up and get an extra .5% for 3 months: https://www.wealthfront.com/c/affiliates/invited/AFFD-TFLJ-KLGR-FZTR
  2. Car debt sucks but I give myself a bit pat on the back for paying mine off within a year. $17k isn’t chump change. I tell myself you can’t get a new one again until it hits 100k miles. I’d make an exception if the alternative gets more than twice the fuel economy.
  3. Fancy gyms are a luxury – Will I go back to Equinox again? Only if I lived closer to one, $215/mo is still a shit ton of money to workout especially if you aren’t using all the amenties. Did I feel like a wealthy person going there? Sure. With personal trainers though you could easily double that cost per month. It was nice seeing Ferraris, high end Mercedes and Tesla SUVs in the parking lot.
  4. Dogs are expensive, mine toward the end was close to $250/mo between vet visits / medication, grooming, food. Would I get another one? Yes but in a bigger space and it needs to be one that bonds with me.
  5. Your home is your sanctuary. When I had the ant infestation that persisted for months I felt like a prisoner to a colony that did as it wished, invading my personal space, my kitchen, my laundry room area, the area around the front door. I bought some LED lights to give my place a little different vibe. Warm if I want, or any other range of colors in the RGB spectrum.
  6. I don’t need to have the best of the best when it comes to tech. For both my laptop – in both size, memory, and cpu cores…and Phone – in terms of storage capacity I downgraded. Happy with both purchases. New AirPods Maxes came out but just a different connector with no other changes, new color for the same Apple Watch Ultra 2. I’d be a fool to drop cash on either product when mine is near identical.
  7. Bf moving closer me to me has been a blessing. I was able to help him after a minor fender bended he experienced this month, we spend more time together in general, it’s been way easier to take him to work or run errands vs living in a bad part of Fort Worth.
  8. With bad health you are poor. My blood pressure is a good example of that. When I was taking the medication my stomach was always upset. Then when I was off it my numbers were sky high, not far from where people would be admitted to the ER. Switched to a new one and it’s been working better.
  9. Debt – I don’t villainize debt anymore the numbers just need to be in the right ratios relative to savings / investments and income. My unofficial rule is pay off all normal sized debt in a month, for anything that is more of a stretch pay it off in 3. I’ve also been incredibly blessed to have been steadily employed since 2013, something I don’t take for granted. I know 3 people who are looking for jobs right now. I’ve seen TikTok videos of people getting laid off right before Christmas. It’s rough out there.
  10. Travel – Quebec, Toronto, Houston, Little Rock – Getting outside of my little 700 sq ft bubble has been extremely invigorating to my soul and I hope to do more travel.
  11. Experiences – I can be a cheapskate but I very much appreciate a unique experiences. We went to a fancy restaurant in downtown dallas a few weeks before Christmas and plan to go another one on this coming trip. Holiday light shows, friends christmas parties. It can add up but after working hard for the entire year a little here and there on my salary, it isn’t going to break me.
  12. Cash – Not physical cash but having money liquid. I’ll still max out my retirement accounts, but diversifying outside of that is a big part of my strategy into the new year. Will I have enough for a downpayment? Hopefully, but having all my money tied up to where I can’t access it until I’m 59 1/2 or longer just doesn’t sit well with me. This way I have runway if unforeseen circumstances occur or a buffer for my upgrade to a 2br or 3br place. I say place because home ownership #s just don’t jive with me yet. 20-25% lower we can talk but right now no deal.

In my 2025 Financial Goals post – My goal is to be up to $455k next year and I’m sticking to that. 18% or $70k higher than where I’m at now. If we hit an 8% Rate of Return that means “only” $38k more I have to earn / save to get there. Hope you’re all thriving out there. Here’s to 2025!

Autumn Dreams – Oct 2024 – $351k

I count my blessings everyday. I’m in fairly good health, have friends who care about me, a boyfriend who loves me and tries to save money, a paid off car in full with title meaning it can’t be repoed, the latest in tech gadgets that I love to tinker with, and am on the road to becoming a millionaire.

The title of this month’s post is Autumn Dreams. Each day I find myself thinking about life after moving out of this 700 sq ft apartment.
Why – I need a change of pace, working from home 40 hours a week and spending at least another 40 at home, this sized place doesn’t make me feel happy. It’s dated, and dark inside. I have no garage and the kitchen is small. Property values are also starting to come down. If I take the the next step and we live together, doing it in a 1br isn’t going to work. December also will mark a decade of living in this complex. The rent started around $785 I’ve also been here soon for an entire decade, it’s now $1,270 so 62% higher.

What are my options?
1. Buy a condo
2. Buy a house
3. Buy a townhouse
4. Lease a house
5. Lease a townhome
6. Rent a 2 br apartment

When – My lease is up August 2025. I should be able to save a few thousand at least between now and then. Will it be enough for a 20% down payment? Likely not. 10% on the other hand? That’s doable. Also giving myself a little bit of grace since $1,270 is still a decent amt to pay in rent while also trying to everything else. Really don’t want to ask my parents for money in the event my stepdad sells his house considering I earn more than both of them combined. I also think my salary is too high for any type of down payment assistance. With an FHA loan I could start with a 3.5% down payment but that could quickly result in being underwater.

What I’m doing now?
1. I trimmed my 401k contribution percentage down to 6% at least temporarily. At age 41 98% of my net worth shouldn’t be tied up in retirement accounts. I would much have this spread by closer to 50%. With my new contribution rates I’ll be putting in about $1,300/mo into retirement plus matching vs. $2,459 previously. Staying at that contribution level and 8% annual return rates I’ll have have $1M in 2034.
2. Currently aiming to add $1k per paycheck into a High Yield Savings account (4.25% APY). So far I only have $1k there but with roughly 24 checks left between now and the time my lease is up every bit counts. Also putting dollars into investments that have a little more but the opportunity for more reward too.
3. For taxable investments I’m doing a conservative $300/mo to have compounding continue working in my favor, though this is subject to change.

Current finances – At a macro level my investments have all gone up vs last month. Net worth up another $11k from last month. $351k total. A year ago I was at $225k or 56% higher. Oct 2022 I was at $178k or 97% higher. In January 2024 my net worth was $250k, so I’m up $100k since then due to a record breaking market rally (ignoring today, that sucked haha) and steady contributions. It’s true what they say once you get past the first $100k the next round gets easier.

10/1/20248/31/2024Difference% Change
401k297,589289,322+8,627+2.9%
Roth IRA47,09145,392+1,699+3.7%
Brokerage Acct54922+527+2,394%
Cash3,5472,032+1,515+74.5%
HSA3,4653,574-109-3.1%
Total352,240340,342+11,898+3.5
Credit Cards832349+483+138.3%
Auto Loan000N/A
Net Total351,408339,993+11,415+3.4%

Upcoming expenses:
1. Replacement of MacBook Pro. Currently I have the 16″ but likely switching over to the 14″. 16″ while extremely powerful is super bulky to me and most of the time I have it plugged into 2 external displays. I estimate it will be about another $1,500 to get a new M4 Max with the specs I want. I also could get one of the current generation models at a discount either new or certified refurbished. Or not purchase anything at all and wait for the redesign. Potentially faster Wi-Fi, faster graphics, more cpu power, more memory and storage
2. Europe trip. Need the money for it in November, final expenses yet to be determined. I think it will be around $1200 for the entire trip.
3. New York trip – This one is a maybe but likely would be December or January. Those generally run aroune $800 between flight, parking, car rental. There is the option of me working on the trip like I did earlier this year. Though that wouldn’t feel like much of a vacation.
4. Clothes – I need new ones, particular ones that fit me properly. Likely $200 will go to some refreshes over the next couple weeks.

Without going into details I’m expecting a bit of good news with regard to my ability to hit my financial goals. For that I am thankful especially in the current environment. CVS is laying off 3000 workers, GM 1600, 17% of workforce at Panera, 650 at Microsoft and that doesn’t even include previous months.

Easier said than done but I’m going to focus a bit more on cashflow right now. In the event things go south I’ll have a nice nest egg built up. If they don’t I’ll keep stacking up cash, dividends and diversify outside of retirement funds and the S&P500.

As far as life is concerned things are going well. Experienced some great restaurants, the arboretum, state fair of texas, movie and tv watching nights with friends. My bf and I celebrated our one year anniversary about a week ago. I remember there was a time I wondered if I’d ever find a relationship again especially in my 40s. My blood pressure is at a managable level without prescription medication. Here’s to living in the moment, planning for tomorrow, being responsible, and stuff.