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Good News & Responsibility – Nov 2024 – $359k

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So it’s been a year since I said goodbye to my dog Sasha. It doesn’t carry the same level of sadness it once did but I am still reminded of her presence. Kind of thinking about getting a dog again, but not in the 700 sq. foot apartment.

I got a raise and bonus at work and feeling good about it. Is it life changing? Not exactly but it’s helping me keep up with inflation and I am extremely thankful to be receiving anything. Especially in today’s environment.

Last month I set a lofty goal to start saving $1k per paycheck toward my home fund. Have I been able to stick to that? Yes. I have $4k currently saved. FHA is 3.5% or $350k is $12k. I’m on track to have more than that by the time my 42nd birthday rolls around.

I’ve had a few celebrations and done some gifting but all of that was paid for any not much in the grand scheme of things. For his 31st birthday I got my bf mostly practical items and we went out to high tea at The Adolphus in Downtown Dallas. For a friend’s birthday we covered his dinner at Goldie’s, along with alcohol and drinks. Was it cheap? No sometimes you need to spend a little more for the experience and to return the kindness of others.

After much deliberation I’m keeping my 16″ MacBook Pro M3 Max. It’s got 48GB of RAM, 16 CPU cores, 40 GPU cores, 1TB of storage, beautiful screen. No need to drop $1300 on a new 14″ one that has very similar specs. Save / invest that money and when the next shiny thing comes out the current latest and greatest will be on sale. Heck there are people still rocking the M1 Max for professional needs and those came out 3 years ago. For next year’s Europe trip I can bring the iPad Pro with me and use it as “desktop” for a week and a half. Also I rarely push this system to the absolute limits and trying to get better at not leaving a ton of windows / tabs open in my browser. Also testing out the Brave browser instead which is much better than Safari with memory management. As I type this up, the CPU is about 90% idle.

Next week will be a trip to Hot Springs, Arkansas and probably Little Rock as well. Going to take a scenic drive and have never been to either city. Some nice restaurants, lots of sight seeing, hoping the weather cooperates.

Speaking of driving, I had an unexpected situation hitting some debris on a dark service road. Thought it was a brick or something to that effect. Oh this is a tiny item my car isn’t lowered or anything, surely it will clear it. I was mistaken and have a $301 bill to prove it.. The service cut me me a break, the original quote ws about $100 more. I tried to be extra nice and also got the other warranty work done so it was productive even though the lack of a loaner car for 4 days was a little bit annoying. The aluminum plate piece would scrape on the ground every time there was a little raised part of the road.

The kickball season has come to a close for me, it was fun to have plans on the weekend to do something outside of the apartment. It kind of gives me a little more life too, being around people in their 20s and 30s. Much more sense of adventure than I have sometimes. It’s eye opening how they were talking about $100k being a good salary to live off of in Dallas. I remember trying to hit that target for years and years. Then it happened. Now I don’t really realize I earn quite a lot compared to the average person.

FOMO is a real thing for me and I am not really where I expected to be at this age. Sometimes you work toward a goal and fall flat on your face. I am not letting that discourage me though. I will soon have the most cash I’ve ever had on hand since I had a windfall in 2022. I’m not used to not investing every single dollar and having a little bit left over. I do feel guilty about not maxing out my 401k. 35% of the money I don’t put in retirement is just going to the tax man. For a couple hundred in my pocket it’s not really worth it since I’m missing out on potential tax-deferred growth. So back to maxxing out I go.

11/1/202410/1/2024Difference% Change
401K297,764297,589+175+.1%
Roth IRA47,97747,091+886+1.9%
Brokerage Acct882549+333+60.7%
Cash8,6863,547+5,139+144.9%
HSA3,4903,465+25+.7%
Total358,799352,240+6,559+1.9%
Credit Cards0832-832-100%
Net Total358,799351,408+7,390+2.1%

Up $7,390 in a market that has recently taken some hits. There is a strong possibility of hitting a $400k net worth in the next year. Last year as proud as I was of my progress I was “only” at $217k so up 65% or $142k in a year. ::cough::

I don’t have anything to complain about right now. Saving toward a new place to live, my investment acct is up, I’m not letting money burn a hole in my pocket. I have a well paying job and a loving supportive partner. Losing a few pounds though I’m still up 40 pounds since covid and working from home. I didn’t gain it all at once so I can’t reasonably expect to lose it that quickly either. Steady consistent effort over time, that’s what it’s all about. That, not making dumb decisions, and a little bit of luck.

Still haven’t decided if I’m going to visit family in December since I basically have the week of christmas off. Weather is a big unknown but I do still have a Southwest credit that hasn’t been utilized. I’d also need to rent a car otherwise I’d be stuck at home with parents home most of the entire trip which also isn’t ideal.

I voted early last month, election day will soon be upon us. I wanted to find good reasons to support one side but kept coming up short. I’ll leave it at that. Also Harlan if you’re reading this I and probably others can’t leave any comments on your blog, I tried 3 times and it kept loading. 😛

I found my 1st grade school pictures from October 1989. That was 35 years ago and I remember most of that era at least from a 6 year old perspective. There is one person who I can’t remember the name of but everyone else is still around and doing well from what I can tell at least. Hope you guys and gals are doing well out there.

I also see Joe’s blog https://nomoreharvarddebt.com/ is public again even if it’s dormant. It’s still a good resource on how to think differently from society with personal finance even a decade later. Maybe the Gen Z crowd will discover some of the advice from your elders is good. 😉

Forecasting The Future – May 2024 – $292k

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My Life and Month in pictures.

  1. On a whim we decided to see this Barbie Experience activity at a nearby mall here. It wasn’t crowded when we went and I really enjoyed the level of detail that went into each exhibit.
  2. A CosMc’s (branch of the McDonald’s franchise) recently opened here. I really was impressed at the exterior design and concept. However the execution left me wanting more. So many ultra processed ingredients, high fructose corn syrup, snacks loaded in sugar. My drink tasted bitter and I didn’t finish it all. Can’t say I plan to go back anytime soon.
  3. Visited my family in New York after about a year and a half. My flight credit was due to expire and the timing was about right so I figured why the heck not. I ended up working 4 out of the 5 days there 10-6. I saw one of my friends who got married in 2022. He and his wife are doing great. I don’t know how they have so many pets, I could only handle one maybe 2 small dogs. Not 5, 2 cats, and birds. My parents are getting older, in the back of my mind I need to start making effort to see them more often. Especially since they haven’t been here in about 6 years. This 1 bedroom apartment is tight for any type of company. While there helped do a little bit of decluttering, helped set up a new 2021 M3 MacBook Air, and wiped the 2018 so that my stepdad could use it. The sales guy at Microcenter was a bit on the pushy side and I basically told him no to the warranties, and some anti-virus software that really isn’t needed. Passing down the Mac hw was much more useful than the paltry $160 being offered for it. They still had the 17″ MacBook Pro I used in grad school (2006-2008) now with a swollen battery! The screen wouldn’t turn on, the keyboard was barely functional and the bottom case was a bit bent. I literally try to keep all my computers and cars close to mint and shook my head about it. There was another computer from 2007 I also tried to wipe as much as I could without the system install DVD. I enjoyed the trip but not the constant exhaustion or sleeping in my old XL Twin bed.
  4. Last summer I had a small ant investation in my laundry room light fixture. The pest control company did multiple treatments and the went away for a while. However for the last 2 months they’ve been back. Tonight they came out with a vengence, nearly 100 of them right outside of my door feeling displaced by activity I took days earlier to eliminate them. I bought any baits at home depot right before closing only to read the fine print they aren’t god for Carpenter Ants. It’s got me really thinking about moving though, I’m overdue for an upgrade. Was trying to hold out until my car payments were gone but not so sure anymore. I work from home and my desk is just a few feet away from these annyoing insects. I got a response from maintenance this morning. They are going to treat the mount on Monday. Fingers crossed I don’t have two nights in a row of this stressful experience but I’m not so hopeful.
  5. Prior to the NY trip I called Expedia to try and settle the matter. Was on hold over 2hrs 15 minutes and no one picked up the phone. I had the sense to use the chat with an agent who took an entire hour to resovle my issues. I was tempted to give up but that was $500+ of my hard earned money.
  6. Yesterday I took my car in for an alignment check and tire rotation. The young guy working there really liked my red seats. I asked the service advisor about my rusting lug nuts and he brushed me off just like the other dealership I went to. May just buy some black ones and home they don’t mess them up.
  7. Solar Eclipse – DFW was on a direct trajectory to see it and there won’t be another one like this for approximately 20 years. A dear friend gave me a pair of the glasses as to avoid permanent eye damage. Definitely one of the experiences where pics don’t do it justice.
  8. Not sure how fast I’m going to go on this but I reached out to Fidelity and reclassified my old employer stock purchase plan as a regular brokerage account. Also so glad I only put $20 in because the company went bankrupt not too long after I left. I wonder how my old coworkers who said to invest 100% in it with the belief it’s going to go up is feeling now. I’m adding $50 every week to it in addition to the $25/wk with my M1 acct. So a whopping $75/wk or $300/mo + the $2172/mo in my 401k and $742/mo into the Roth to play catchup for 2024. $3,214 feels like it’s close to the max I’m comfortable with given my income levels. Ideally I think I’ll need a total of $1-$1.5M invested, $2M to feel comfortable.
  9. Cleaning – I’ve had this steamer since moving into my apartment and for the most part it just collected dust. Earlier this week I grabbed it, started sweeping and using it again. How much dust accumulates on a floor and next to my washer / dryer was really an eye opener and kind of nasty to be honest. I will make doing this part of my weekly routine. I also cleaned out a pretty big chunk of my closet.
  10. Bf moves – He’s moving a lot closer to me for work / quality of life reasons. He really works hard between two jobs and I definitely am proud of him. His apartment might actually be nicer than me despite the age / income gap lol. I haven’t seen the specific unit in person but soon.
  11. Sports – Playing kickball and cornhole still. The latter has been a total bust, I haven’t been playing as well as before. We did win today’s kickball game so I’ll take it.
  12. Life and Death – Someone years ago I knew through the dating app scene but didn’t really have that dating connection with… recently passed away at 33 years old. He was funny, sassy, and I knew lots of people. Looking at a few of his pictures he lost a ton of weight and was looking a bit unhealthy to me. Not sure if it was gastric bypass related but what I’ve read on social media indicated it was unexpected. We last chatted in 2021 and I feel for his family and twin brother especially. RIP Justin.
  13. Health – It has been a struggle. The new whey protein isolate shake I bought absolutely destroys my stomach. People say the sugar substitute sucralose is part of the problem. I don’t know that for sure but not worth these crazy side effects. So back to the vegetarian option. I got my bloodwork done from my doctor and I’m going further into prediabetic mode so it’s been time to make changes. I tried to get Wegovy / Ozempic but insurance won’t cover it until I hit the $2,450 annual deductible. I’m only about $900 into it and it resets in August so that’s a no.
  14. iPad Pro – Apparently mine is about 90% battery. Lately with the latest release version of iPad OS the system has been rapidly depleting that just playing Youtube. Apple is offering $400 to trade it in as of today and a 3rd party offered me slightly less. Not sure if I need the latest and greatest for what I essentially use for watching YouTube and doing some light web browsing. Most of that AI stuff can apply to my Mac and iPhone. I say that now at least without having seen the final product.

Specific to my personal finance I know I’m doing better than most people. I was watching this video ‘Something Terring is Happening to Boomers’ and the guy said 50% have no savings and avg savings is $100,000. I’m near 3x that with about 20 years to go until I’m anywhere near that age cohort. For te presenter in that video he talked about income being greater than assets. My bare minimum expenses to live is about $3k/month or $36k. To have that in passive high yield savings acct income I’d need to have $720k with a 5% return rate. Still a long way from that The car debt is still a bit of a thorn in the side but I’m paying $1400/mo to knock it down. I started off financing $21,500 so 46% of the way there at 5.99% in 6 months.

5/4/20243/31/2024Difference% Change
401K254,172257,260(3,088)-1.2%
Roth IRA39,98639,0209662.5%
Brokerage Accts2,4152,367482.0%
Cash3,8463,39245513.4%
HSA3,0562,69336413.5%
Total303,476304,731(1,255)-.4%
Credit Cards065(65)-100%
Auto Loan11,55513,587(2,032)-15%
Net Total291,921291,079842+.3%
May 2024 – $292k Net Worth

So a game I started playing – Star Trek Online has you as the captain of a ship and you get into battle just like the tv shows / movies. April felt like I kept getting hit with phasers and photon torpedoes in the stock market. I just tell myself it’s paper money and being flat net worth wise month over month isn’t that bad. I see the stories of people at Tesla and other companies who lost their jobs and am like okay you’ve got it better than most. Same with homeless people with signs asking for money or sleeping under a bridge. A year ago my net worth was $186k so +57% in a year. I’m going to Vegas in June and need to buy tickets soon and car insurance hits next month. So even though I feel like I have a little bit of extra cash right now, it goes fast.

Anyway I’ve got to squeeze out a gym workout before we see this Challenger movie and do a cuatro de mayo dinner beforehand. Peace =/\=. If you’re still reading this, how are you doing?

2023 Year in Review – January 2024 $250k

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Looking back, January 3, 2023 my net worth was $173k, was aiming to hit $200k. Here we are now at the end of 2023 and I’m reflecting on the year.
Accomplishments , Big Purchases and Life Changes:
-Got promoted in August and now earning the most of my entire life. Stress levels go up and down but overall I’m satisfied with where I’m at for now, 3 years from now might be different story. The top 10% in the state have an income of $239,765 according to an article on Yahoo Finance. Maybe one day I’ll get there, but even if I don’t I can have an amazing life without it.
-Weight – Literally the same weight I was a year ago. The fact that I didn’t gain any I suppose is an accomplishment, but I really was hoping to lose a significant amount.
-Switched phone plans – T-Mobile has been a really good experience overall, much improved over the distaster that was AT&T. Basically hey we’re going to charge you for 5G even though there isn’t a tower where you live and not tell you at all about it.
-TV – Bought a 65″ TV and had a friend help me mount it to the wall. Mini-LED, bright colors, deep blacks and really makes the room look a lot cleaner. Crazy good deal on it at $649.99. The TV I bought in 2017 is now what I keep in the bedroom and gets used on rare occassions.
-Gym – Switched from Anytime Fitness to Equinox. I was going to CVS and the first Anytime Fitness location I went to which was rundown, super tiny and never had any of the equipment updated wasn’t there anymore. I just saw a For Lease sign in the window. So far it’s been a great experience, it’s clean, new, never super congested and has some nice amenities. Still haven’t registered for any classes yet but I want to give it a go for something lighter intensity.
-Car – Bought a CPO one to replace the lemon-adjacent 2023 Acura Integra. The TLX wowed me between the extra power, SH-AWD handing, comfortable seats, 17 speaker ELS audio system. It did involve me financing an additional $16,700 and putting $2k down. I used money from a cancelled warranty to go right to the principal. The total amount I’ve financed has dropped from $21,500 down to $17,746 or -$3,754
-Dog – I told her once that I’ll keep fighting as long as she wanted to. I knew that day was coming and tried everything possible within reason to prolong her life as long as possible. Losing her on Oct 31 was one of the biggest life changing events of mine since moving into this apartment in 2014. I still know I made the right choice after having her on 3 medications, battling 3-4 health issues at once. I didn’t go into a deep depression or anything but went through several waves of grief. The apartment still feels eerily quiet without her. Between the noise she would make eating or drinking from her bowl, the baby growling at me when she wanted a treat, the snoring, the very specific way she would sniff out treats like a pig. Still not sure if I’m going to get another dog anytime soon.
-401k – For all practical purposes I maxed out my contributions for 2023. Came in about $200 short due to a calculation error on my part. I didn’t listen to all the people saying the economy was going to implode. I mean it still could in the future but dollar cost averaging has worked in my favor
-Roth IRA – Contributed to it but still working on closing the contribution gap. Have $2,587 to go by April 15. $3,913 of contributions so far for the year is nothing to scoff at though
-Concerts – Saw Janet Jackson live in June which was significant since I’ve been listening to her music for over 30 years. Buying tickets on presale is a game changer given these incredibly high prices.
-Movies – Since getting my AMC Stub’s membership I’ve seen 20x more movies in the theater than I used to. In order from most to least recent – The Color Purple, Saltburn, Wonka, Wish, Hunger Games; The Ballad of Songbirds & Snakes, Next Goal Wins, Priscilla, The Marvels, The Exorcist: Believer, Strange Way of Life, The Creator, Dumb Money, A Haunting in Venice, Bottoms, The Equalizer 3, Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles: Mutant Mayhem, Strays, Gran Turismo: Based on a True Story, Barbie, Mission: Impossible – Dead Reckoning Part One, Joy Ride, Indiana Jones And The Dial of Destiny, Elemental, The Flash, The Blackening, The Little Mermaid, Guardians of the Galaxy Vol. 3, Air, Chevalier, Renfield, The Super Mario Bros Movie, Dungeons & Dragons: Honor Among Thieves, Creed III, Cocaine Bear

Other Items / Reflections:
-I didn’t do any traveling this year. I was supposed to go to Chicago in August for my 40th and got sick with a double ear infection.
-Last week I got Covid-19, for the 3rd time. I thought about doing a last minute trip, but my mom would still be working so that kind of defeats the point. A New York Spring 2024 trip is in the cards. Also want to plan some type of trip with my boyfriend since he loves travelling and is good company
-I started a new Instagram account to track my fitness. That will essentially be my accountability partner along with the YouTube content. Short updates only, I can ramble on and get off topic with the best of them so nothing more than 5 minutes a video is ideal.
-Dining Set – Guy came on time and was kind enough to drag each of the three boxes to my living room instead of just leaving it “on the street” or outside door. Tipped him $10 as a thank you. Assembled 4 chairs yesterday after a bunch of mini mental breakdowns. Got dizzy between outgassing of the equipment and only having cold brew coffee to drink while intermittent fasting. A neighbor saw me struggling with carrying the old dining room table to the curb and offered to help. Not even 2 hours later the table and all of the 5 chairs were gone. I view that as a donation to charity.
-Credit Cards – Effectively down back to 0 again. The M3 Max MacBook Pro paid off, car insurance for 6 months, 1 years of renters insurance, all the clothes I bought for Black Friday / Cyber Monday
-Met an amazing guy I first matched with on July 10th through Tinder and met in person with on Sept 24th. Lucked out since he easily could’ve unmatched me or met someone else after I went silent since I thought someone else wanted to be exclusive and dumped me 2 weeks after my birthday. No one is perfect but I feel like we have a lot in common and he actually shows an interest in dating me.
-Turning 40 was a huge milestone for me. I’ve taken a long hard look at where I’ve been and where I plan to go on this journey called life. I see people who are successful financially but they look old and some of them are in really poor physical shape. Others don’t let go of the party scene and they’re still getting crazy and drunk every weekend. My body no longer lets me do that so I’m mostly a non or semi-social drinker.
-Time is a precious resource – Whether it be regarding chasing after people who show no effort, or simply how I use the hours in a given day. I think back to the year 2000 sometimes and about all that was happening in that era and how far things have progressed since. The reality is the difference between 1976 and 2000 is the same as 2000 and 2024. People get old, have kids, move, die, move up, lose everything, become politically extreme or one-sided about everything. Or they just want to find peace and experiment with something different.
-Cars are expensive. Even a moderately higher end car like my 2023 Acura TLX for $46k + tax. I put $2k down and still increased my loan balance to $21,500. The BMW I wanted was impossible to find and too expensive, maybe in a few years. Lifestyle creep is a real. Be reasonable but get something you like is how I like to approach larger scale purchases. The author Ramit Sethi whom I’ve looked up to for some time drives a 20 year old Honda Accord but will spend thousands on a jacket he will keep for years and years. We all prioritize spending in different areas.
-Doing the math saves you a lot of trouble down the road. It helps negotiating salaries, large scale purchases like a vehicle or a home, or how to plan to hit a debt payoff goal by a certain date. Even on my salary with interest rates the way they are I can’t afford the $325k home I was looking at. With a minimum amount down still looking at over $3100/mo in expenses. To get to the well-respected 20% down I’d have to start saving now for 3-4 years down the line. I did a little quick math. It would take $81k to be able to do a 20% down payment and cover the buyer’s closing costs. Even if I don’t buy a house I should start setting aside some fuck you money just in case things go south.
So $81,000 in…
4 years is $1,687 / month or $844 biweekly
3 years is $2,250 / month or $1,125 biweekly
2 years is $3,375 / month or $1688 biweekly
1 year is $6,750 / month or $3,375 biweekly

12/31/2312/2/23Difference% Change1/2/23
401K$227,680$215,535$12,1455.6%$155,964
Roth IRA$33,551$31,319$2,2327.1%$23,403
M1 Account$1,863$1,712$1518.8%$446
Cash$2,739$2,522$2178.6%$7,002
HSA$2,637$2,494$1435.7%$3,100
Total$268,470$253,582$14,8885.9%$189,915
Credit Cards$336$1,407-$1,071-76.1%$0
Auto Loans$17,746$18,697-$952-5.1%$16,909
Net$250,389$233,478$16,911+7.2%$173,006
January 2024 Net Worth Update

My overall net worth is up about 45% YoY or $77k. Month-over-Month it’s +7% or $17k. I feel really good about both of these. Life isn’t all about money and I think often about my health, and future. Focus on what you can control, everything else is up to chance in a lot of ways. $250k net worth, the little piece of paper in my home office had $150k written down for 2023. Started this blog in April 2012 at -$42k or -$63k in current dollars.

Some pictures from December 2023. North Park Mall, new dining room set from Nebraska Furniture Mart, standing at Granite Park in Plano outside of Surburban Yacht Club, and on the way back from the Equinox after doing a crazy hour long set on the elliptical.

Wish you all a Happy, Fun-Filled, and Healthy 2024. My #1 piece of advice to both you and myself is to spend more time living life, focused on you and your loved ones, life goals, and less on social media worrying about what other people are doing.