I always like to put things in context with my life when providing a net worth update. Some notable items:

1. Today marks 8 years since starting my investment portfolio began with my first job to break the $50k level. It definitely wasn’t easy to start adding funds a 401k when I was still saddled with approximately $40k of student loan debt. The 100% match on up to the first 5% of my income was too good of a deal to turn down. Then I started thinking about how much I was paying in taxes.
2. High School graduation was 20 years ago. I keep in touch with a select few, celebrating their milestones from afar but with life and distance comes losing touch with people.
3. I’ve had a series of mid-life crises the last couple of months. Between annoying health issues, a temporary lull in my social life, being super introspective about life. I wanted to see family in New York after having not seen them since November 2018. I wasn’t forceful about needing to see them but still to see my parents buy a $40k truck plus a $13k trailer… but still not have the Covid-19 vaccine and not be receptive to me traveling to see them. We’re talking almost 1000 days. That kinda hurt.
4. A friend I lost touch with over the last few years has his home listed for sale. The price is about $400k and he paid $255k for it. I know the housing market is starting to slow down bit, but am pretty confident he will get close to his asking price if not slightly above it. I literally have no idea where he is moving to. Not sure if he’s Is he sticking to the area, is he going to London. I think he’s single again, last time he started dating he kinda disappeared. I should stop caring so much since we haven’t seen each other in 3 years after kinda seeing each other monthly for almost 7. That’s how life is though, he was always swamped with work.
5. I have a week of vacation coming up after 4th of July and literally have made no plans to go anywhere. Every place I’ve looked at that is dog friendly has been super expensive. Kinda frustrating, but I also don’t want to pay $250+ a night for something that is the equivalent of a Motel 6 or other dumpy motel. Prices go crazy around this time of year, especially with more and more people wanting to travel now that quarantine is lifted.
6. Dating has been formidable to put it mildly. I wrote a few paragraphs on this topic but ended up deleting it. Have to focus on the areas I have control over…
7. I am recovering from a skin infection on my foot. On 2nd round antibiotics, it’s annoying as hell during the summertime. Hopefully everything I’m doing to help recover is going to pay off quickly. My next visit is in a week, really hoping it’s the last one….
8. I’ve been in Texas for a decade. I never thought I was going to stay here that long. I still question if I’m making the right choices. The cost of housing here is spiking with all the influx of residents from other states. What will the “next” Texas be? Nevada, Florida perhaps?
9. I dropped $900 on a vrbo with friends for a week in hot Seattle. I still need to book the flight which I plan to do later this week and am praying doesn’t get cancelled.

6/28/21
401K $139,579
Roth IRA $14,842
M1 Acct $2,283
Crypto $400
HSA $2,120
Total Investments: $159,225

5/22/21
401K: $132,481
Roth IRA: $14,276
M1 Acct $1,860
Crypto: $466
HSA $1,856
Total Investments: $150,939

I don’t quite have June 2020 numbers, so just going to roll with May
401k: $69,924.08
Roth IRA: $4,228.39
HSA: $770.42
M1: $144.88
May 2020 Total Retirement: $75,068

Month-Over-Month: Net Worth is up $8,286 or 5.4%.
Year-Over-Year my Net worth has increased by $84,157 or 212%.

On one hand I have the highest net worth of my entire life and think my high savings / investment rate will make things a lot easier in my 50s and 60s. In fact being 12 years away from age 50 I’ve basically reached the average 401k balance of someone in that age bracket already. This is without owning a home. What I have saved now is easily 5x the amount my parents had at this age. The market is up right now and I didn’t have the cash to make my usual Roth IRA contribution. Next paycheck I think I can afford to go back to the plan.

I had a chat with my stepdad over the weekend. The house his father bought in 1960 was $14,900. In terms of today’s dollars that is $135,507. However realistically that home now 61 years later would now sell on the market closer to $500k with some partial renovations.

I’m going to loosen up my savings a little bit starting with the HSA. Instead of $270/mo I’m dropping it to $50/mo. In a way that will be like giving myself a raise. I haven’t decided exactly what I’m doing with the $220/mo difference. I can think of some responsible options and some less responsible but more fun options as well.

Update – I got invited to a 4th of July party and also have friends visiting from Boston. Super glad to get some more personal interaction. I think I start sounding nutty after I go many days without seeing people. Hope you all have a great 4th of July and stay safe.

I previously put together a video like this but never uploaded since it was too personal. Still might make it private again but sharing for now in hopes it helps someone.

This weekend was rough for me. The combination of Juneteenth (yes I should be happy but thinking of all the recent video footage made me feel otherwise), knowing someone at a pride concert a few friends went to was ran over and killed, having someone I liked tell me he reconciled with his ex, father’s day when mine has been gone 17 years, not seeing my family in over 2.5 years, not seeing my grandfather in 12 years, dealing with a massive blister on my leg, gaining weight back. One day I will be able to look back and laugh at it.

I’m going to see if things start improving in the next two weeks. If not I think seeing a therapist again might be helpful. Also noticing that trying to get the attention of people who are uninterested is a massive waste of time. My personality is that of an INFP but being too in my feelings can really stifle me. I kind of felt like I’m falling behind in the game of life.

This is not a money related post. It’s a way of getting my thoughts out regarding a situation that could have potentially been life threating to me and two friends of mine.

This afternoon at 1:30 two of my friends and I were supposed to go see a movie at the AMC movie theater in North Park Mall in Dallas. I have been to the mall several times before and think of it fondly. I saw people of all ethnicities there both workers and shoppers. The area is considered affluent and far from being a crime hotspot. I was planning to get there 15 minutes early but both due to weather, getting ready last minute and other factors I got there about 1:26. A woman in her 30s pulled up about the same time as me and we both proceeded to the entrance at the same time.

A friend sent me this at 1:22PM, indicating where I was supposed to meet him. Right next to the Nordstrom building.

Great, I have a landmark to reference. I crossed the parking lot and proceeded to head to the door. I literally was less than 20 feet away and I hear sirens. My first thought…. Is it a fire alarm? Perhaps some unruly teenagers were bored. Wait a couple minutes and it will all be over. The people in front of my ignored the alarm and proceeded to walk in anyway. The woman in the Porsche Cayenne paused and waited outside with me. We both were processing.

Not even 15 seconds later we see people exiting the doors. Except the pace was not leisurely, they were running. Mothers, fathers, children. Someone shouted there’s a shooter in there. I started running with them, adrenaline kicking in… I had my sneakers on. Genetically I’m a sprinter and not a long distance runner. Except I’m 5’9 and 250 pounds. It’s just across two parking lots. I got this.

For context-I hear stories in the news about mass shootings at least weekly in America. It’s seemingly unavoidable. I’m a minority. Going back 100 years to Tulsa and how a group didn’t want to see Black Wallstreet succeed. A former classmate from my high school was stabbed and killed in New York City. Downtown Dallas 2016 had a mass shooting where 5 officers were killed. On the same street as my apartment two people were shot and killed in separate incidents. In my 20s I feared going to the wrong neighborhood at night because of the gangs. Then the stories of Pulse night club. I tried to block all that from memory but was unsuccessful..

Was this yet another unfortunately footnote in the decline of American society? Would they target me because I’m black? What about my two friends who I’m supposed to meet at this very moment? One is stuck on the 2nd floor and live streaming to facebook to let everyone know he’s okay. The other one was literally parking and I text him don’t go in. I try to call but the call wouldn’t connect. Was he okay? He is new to the area and it’s his first time at the mall. My mind starts racing… I send pictures of where I am to my friends and they both respond. Okay they’re fine.

My other friend drives an early 2000s Acura with a shit ton of miles. It overheats for any trips over 30 minutes, almost blew up on the cross country trip. He’s trying to get out of the parking garage but it’s a standstill. On a good day it would take all of 2 minutes. This time it was over 30 minutes. Eventually we were able to rendezvous and sort out everything that was going on. I had a moment of PTSD but had to quickly take a breath to assess the situation and try to move on from there.

Later on we found out it was a mentally disturbed man banging a skateboard and pretending he had a gun. What if it wasn’t though? I’m only 37 with so many years ahead of me god willing. I don’t want to get shot. Some people were trampled by the crowd requiring hospitalization.

I hadn’t done any travelling over the Memorial Day weekend and we didn’t get to see the movie we planned. Rain check… We instead had some friendly banter at a nearby restaurant in Park Lane. I didn’t drink and got a salad. Trying to keep up with my weight loss. If that didn’t drive me over the edge I think I’m doing pretty well. Down about 9 pounds from my all-time high where I felt like literally nothing I did worked. My addiction to food was ultimately the culprit. I still find myself lacking control around certain sugary delights. It’s in a box and I have money. I can grab this box, eat 1000 more calories than I should and feel short term pleasure. Rinse repeat. Only up 9 pounds now since Covid started.

I went on a 26 mile bike ride yesterday and feeling pretty good about that considering I hadn’t pushed myself that long in 259 days! Also want more color variety in my bike gear. The GCN Jerseys look pretty rad. Those Brits take cycling seriously. I do need to upload a new video to my other YouTube channel, but the last 2 got 0 views so.. My biggest takeaway is to get to the point. I have about a 20 minute video of my going on and on about random stuff. Decided not to upload since it put me to sleep…

Nothing in life is guaranteed. Try to be smart but also enjoy life. You never know what day might be your last. Living in a bubble all the time is not really living. It’s a big country and a big world out there. This day will never come again. Looking back the times when I said yes to life more I ended up having a blast and making more meaningful connections with people. Game on!

Also http://www.nomoreharvarddebt.com is down possibly permanently. His blog inspired my back when I launched this one in 2012. Joe hasn’t updated in about 5 years, was hoping for a several years later update. Still maybe that’s for the better though. Thanks for reading. Hope you all are doing well.